In a July 2013 article, Scientific American studied what most people talk about the most and what they discovered surprised me — probably because my emotional intelligence is not high! Here is their observation: on average people spend 60% of their time talking about themselves! This number goes up to 80% when communicating on social media. So what are the implications for Christians if we spend all this “time” communicating and our faith does not or rarely comes up with others?
How did Jesus reach men like Nicodemus or Zaccheus? He engaged them through natural conversation not preaching or sermonizing. A simple reading of the gospels reveals that Jesus had no method or system save that of a genuine interest in other people and a desire to bring them into His Kingdom. Each conversation is unique and reflects the distinct personalities of the men and women He is speaking with. He was never indifferent, aloof, or patronizing. His conversations did not hide behind a shroud of small talk, religious jargon, or spiritual elitism. While he purposed to convict people of their sin and the Father’s love He never made people feel insignificant, embarrassed, or humiliated. In fact Jesus esteemed their freedom and their dignity so highly that He always left the decision with them.